Salam Aleykum hamiya! Bir sualim var.
Bakireliyini zina ile bir insanla pozmus ve buna pesman olan bir qizla mut'a elemek isteyirem. Atasinin icazesi vacibdir yoxsa yox? Qiz muselmandir. Amma evropeyski muselman. Melumati cox azdir. Valideynlerinin esli dagistanlidi.
Ingilisce bilenler ucun daha detalli sualimi shiachat.com forumuna da yazmisam sual olarag altdaki adrese:
http://www.shiachat....stions-on-muta/
Mektubumun mezmunu:
As Salamu Alaikum!
I have one important question and need help.
I am a student studying in Cyprus. I met one girl (studying in Greece) on internet and we like each other. She will travel to home (her parents and home are in Cyprus close to the place I live) at the end of this month, December 2010. She will spend her winter vacation home and go back to Greece to continue her studies. She is not a virgin but she was not married either. She had one christian boyfriend for two years and they no longer date each other since 2010 summer. She had sexual intercorse with that guy (but were not married). The girl is muslim but does not practise it (pray, fast, etc.). Her parents are immigrants from Moscow but originally from Dagestan and though sunni muslims. I am 12 imam shia. The girl I want to make a mut'a now has done zina for 2 years. And I am explaining her about islam and trying to make her know more. She tells me that she is very repentant about her deed with that christian guy altough loved him very much at that times.
I am 21 and the girl is 22 years old. She tells me that she can decide whatever she wants for herself and does not need anybody's permission. And also told me that her parents are not interfering her sexual life. BUT she also told me that her parents were against her relationship with that CHRISTIAN Greek guy. And I thought her father will not also permit me to make mut'a with her. (He is Sunni for God's Sake) I'm very confused.
According to Ayatullah Sistani's 2386 ruling if the girl is not virgin mut'a with that woman is permissible without asking her father.
2386. In the following situations, it will not be necessary for a woman to seek the permission of her father or paternal grandfather, before getting married:
1. If she is not a virgin.
2. If she is a virgin, but her father or paternal grandfather refuse to grant permission to her for marrying a man who is compatible to her in the eyes of Shariah, as well as custom.
3. If the father and the grandfather are not in any way willing to participate in the marriage.
4. If they are not in a capacity to give their consent, like in the case of mental illness etc.
5. If it is not possible to obtain their permission because of their absence, or such other reasons, and the woman is eager to get married urgently.
But in another page I found from this link (
http://www.islam-law...eforwest/45.htm) ruling 393 that the girl that has lost virginity by fornication (zina) is considered as virgin.
"ruling 393 : The consent of the father or the paternal grandfather is not required in the marriage of a non-virgin woman (that is, a girl who had previously married and had sexual intercourse). But the case of the woman who had lost her virginity because of fornication or another cause is like that of a virgin."
So my question is can I make temporary nigah with her (mut'a) without asking her guardians?
Thank you very much.
As Salamu Alaikum